Self-worth isn’t given—it’s earned through choices, resilience, and refusing to let setbacks dictate who you are.
I used to have a job that wasn’t just a job—it was part of my soul. It gave me purpose. It gave me pride. It was the kind of work that got into your bones, made you feel alive, and gave you an identity. But here’s the cold, hard truth: one day, it was gone. Taken. Stripped away like I didn’t matter. And the aftermath? It’s not just a professional wound. It’s personal. If you’re not careful, it’s a hit to your self-worth that can send you spiraling.
Let’s get something straight: the reasons they gave for my termination? A mix of smoke and mirrors. On paper, yeah, I made a mistake. But dig deeper, and you’ll find the real story isn’t so clear-cut. I followed orders—orders handed down from supervisors, cemented by the people who came before me. It wasn’t rogue behavior or incompetence. It was the system. But when the system needed a scapegoat, my name was the one they circled.
Why? Because I made a choice. A deliberate, unapologetic choice to prioritize my family over my job. When the clock stopped ticking at the end of my shift, my focus shifted to the people who mattered most. And that? That didn’t sit well with those who wanted me to sell my soul to the company. They didn’t say it outright, but the message was clear: your life belongs to us, or you’re expendable.
I refused. I drew the line. And in doing so, I handed them the ammunition to take me down.
Losing that job wasn’t just a financial blow. It was a gut punch to my identity. For years, I had built my sense of self-worth around that position. I thought it defined me. So when it disappeared, I felt like I disappeared with it. Who was I without the badge, the title, the respect that came with it?
But here’s where the story shifts. Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned through all of this, it’s this: your self-worth is not up for debate. It’s not defined by the title on your desk, the uniform you wear, or the paycheck you bring home. It’s defined by your choices, your values, and your refusal to settle for less than what you know you deserve.
The job I have now? It’s not my dream job. Hell, it’s not even close. It’s a necessity. A bridge I’m walking to get to something better. But every single day, I’m showing up. Not just for the paycheck but for the fight to reclaim what was taken from me—not the job, but the pride. The belief that my work aligns with my values. That what I do matters, not just for the bills, but for my soul.
Let me tell you something: fighting to rebuild your self-worth is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. Because the world doesn’t make it easy, it’ll throw every doubt, every insecurity, every reminder of what you’ve lost right in your face. It’ll tell you to settle, to accept that this is as good as it gets.
But that’s a lie.
You can lose everything and still find your way back. But you’ve got to fight for it. You’ve got to claw your way up from the depths, even when it feels like no one sees you, no one cares, and no one is rooting for you. Because it’s not about them, it’s about you. It’s about proving to yourself that you’re worth it.
Here’s the real kicker: the people who tried to tear you down destroy your self-worth? They don’t get the last word. You do. You’re reclaiming your power whenever you refuse to compromise on your values, choose integrity over convenience, and show up even when it hurts. You’re rewriting your story.
And for anyone out there who’s in the trenches, feeling like you’ve lost your sense of purpose, let me remind you of something: your self-worth is not for sale. It’s not up for negotiation. You are more than the opinions of people who see you as a tool, a number, or a liability. You are more than your mistakes. You are more than your losses.
So keep going. Keep fighting. Keep showing up. The world might not hand you redemption, but that’s okay. You don’t need anyone to hand you anything. You’re earning it. You’re building something stronger, something no one can take from you again.
This isn’t the end of your story. It’s the middle of the fight. And you? You’re going to win. Not because it’s easy but because you refuse to quit. And in the end, that’s what self-worth is all about—standing your ground, knowing your value, and never letting anyone make you question it again.
Stay disciplined. Stay resilient.
Jim Lunsford
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