Look, life is full of challenges. Some days, it feels like people, circumstances, or just plain bad luck are out to derail everything you had planned. We’ve all been there, right? A random comment from someone, a situation beyond your control, or even a string of unfortunate events can throw a wrench in your day, leaving you frustrated and ready to throw in the towel.
But here’s the thing: it’s your day. Yours. No one else owns it, no one else lives it, and, importantly, no one else gets to ruin it. If it’s going to be ruined, let it be you who does it on your own terms. I know that sounds crazy but stick with me for a minute.
Life is unpredictable. That’s a given. But what’s predictable—what you can control—is how you react to all the chaos. You see, letting someone else get under your skin, allowing a situation to dictate your mood, that’s giving up your power. It’s handing the keys to your day over to someone else, letting them take the wheel and steer you into the muck. Why let someone else have that much control?
I’ve walked through some tough situations in life—addiction, trauma, and plenty of moments where the easiest thing would have been to let the world or other people ruin my day. But I learned something valuable along the way: you have the power to decide how much space you let someone else take up in your life and, more importantly, in your day.
It wasn’t always clear to me. Hell, I used to think that when things went sideways, it was just the universe stacking the deck against me. I’d get angry. I’d shut down. And in the end, the day was ruined anyway, not by some external force, but by my own choice to react instead of act. Sound familiar?
Look, I get it. There are things that’ll piss you off. Someone cuts you off in traffic, a coworker makes a snide comment, or maybe your morning coffee ends up on your shirt instead of in your cup. That’s life. It’s filled with these small, irritating moments. But what I’m telling you is those moments don’t define your day. You do.
If you’re going to let your day go to hell, do it because you made the decision. Do it because you decided to throw everything aside, burn it all down, and start fresh. Own the fact that it’s you and not some outside force that holds the reins. There’s a certain freedom in that. It’s almost empowering when you’re the one who ruins your own day. It’s like saying, “Yeah, today sucked, but at least I’m the one driving this ship into the ground.” There’s a sense of autonomy in that.
But here’s the flip side, and it’s important. Once you realize you have the power to ruin your day, you also realize you have the power not to. That’s where the real magic happens.
When I was in the throes of addiction, there were countless days I let the world dictate how I felt. A bad moment would turn into a bad day, and before I knew it, I was spiraling out of control. But the truth is, I was giving the world permission to ruin those days. It wasn’t until I took back that control—until I owned my choices, my actions, and yes, even my screw-ups—that I started to see a way out.
Recovery taught me that. It’s a battle every day. You wake up, and you choose how you’re going to face the world. Sometimes, that choice is just getting through the day without falling apart, and that’s okay. But even in those moments, it’s still your choice. You own it.
And the same applies to everyday life. Whether you’re fighting addiction, dealing with a tough job, or just trying to survive the chaos of the world, you are in charge of how you respond. That’s what resilience is. It’s not just about bouncing back after the world knocks you down. It’s about realizing that the world doesn’t have to knock you down in the first place—unless you let it.
I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s not. There are days when it feels like everything is conspiring to drag you down. But here’s the kicker: you get to decide whether you let it. You get to decide whether you give in to the negativity or whether you stand your ground and say, “Nope, not today.”
Sure, maybe you ruin your own day. Maybe you let your temper get the best of you, or you make a decision that turns out to be a disaster. But you know what? At least it’s your disaster. At least you made the call, and that’s better than letting someone else make it for you.
And that’s the heart of it, really. If your day is going to fall apart, let it be on your terms. Own the chaos. When you do that and accept that it’s your responsibility, something amazing happens. You realize that you can just as easily choose not to ruin your day. You can choose to take a breath, step back, and say, “Okay, this isn’t going the way I wanted, but I’m not letting it derail everything.”
You get one day at a time, and no one else gets to live it for you. Don’t let anyone steal that from you. Don’t let someone’s bad mood, careless words, or thoughtless actions ruin what could be a perfectly good day. And if you do let your day fall apart, at least do it with the understanding that it was your choice. Because the moment you realize it’s up to you, you’ve taken the first step toward making every day better than the last.
Life’s messy. It’s unpredictable. But it’s also yours. So, if anyone’s going to ruin your day, let it be you—and let it be because you made that choice. And when you’re done ruining it, remember that tomorrow is another chance to start fresh, reclaim your power, and make sure the day belongs to you again.
Stay disciplined. Stay resilient.
Jim Lunsford
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