Addiction has a way of stripping you down, taking everything that makes you feel human and leaving you with nothing but the barest shell of who you once were. At my lowest, I was barely recognizable to myself and those who loved me. I was 305 pounds, unable to walk down the street without losing my breath and consumed by habits that kept me spiraling further and further away from the life I wanted to live. My body was a mess—high blood pressure, constant fatigue, and a complete disregard for my health. But perhaps even more disturbing was how I had let every other aspect of my life fall into disrepair. I didn’t shower regularly, if at all. My diet was a disaster, more about keeping the alcohol flowing than nourishing my body. My home? It was a wreck, neglected, and left to deteriorate just like I had.
But recovery is about more than just putting down the bottle or the pills. It’s about learning to be human again, about reclaiming the parts of yourself that you’ve let slip away. And for me, that meant starting from scratch, from the very basics of what it means to live a healthy, functional life.
The first thing I had to confront was my physical health. At 305 pounds, I was carrying more than just extra weight—I was carrying the consequences of years of neglect and self-abuse. My body had been through hell, and it showed. I couldn’t walk down the street without gasping for air, my heart pounding in my chest as if it were about to give out. The thought of exercise was daunting, but I knew that I had to start somewhere if I wanted to live and truly recover.
So, I began small. It wasn’t about running marathons or lifting heavy weights; it was about moving, about getting my body used to the idea that it could be more than just a vessel for pain. I started walking a few steps at a time, then a little further each day. I focused on breathing, on making it to the end of the block without feeling like I was going to collapse. It was slow, grueling work, but I felt a tiny piece of my humanity returning with every step.
As the weight started to come off, I noticed something else—my mind was beginning to clear. The fog that had hung over me for so long, which made everything feel hopeless, was lifting. And with that clarity came a new awareness of what I had neglected for years, such as hygiene. It’s embarrassing to admit, but there was a time when I didn’t care about showering, about basic cleanliness. It felt pointless, a chore that didn’t matter in the grand scheme of my addiction. But as I began to care more about my body, I realized that taking care of myself had to start with the basics.
Learning proper hygiene was like rediscovering a lost part of myself. I started small—showering daily, brushing my teeth, grooming myself. At first, it felt strange, like I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t. But the more I did it, the more it became part of my routine, the more it felt like I was reclaiming my identity. I wasn’t just washing away the dirt; I was washing away the years of neglect, self-loathing, and not caring.
Nutrition was another mountain I had to climb. For so long, alcohol had been my primary source of calories. It kept me full, but it also kept me from eating anything remotely healthy. My diet was a disaster—junk food, greasy takeout, and whatever I could scrounge up in my kitchen. I had no concept of proper nutrition and no understanding of what my body needed to thrive. But as I started to care more about my health, I knew I had to change.
It wasn’t easy. Learning about nutrition and what my body needed felt like learning a new language. I had to start from the ground up, educating myself on the basics of healthy eating. I began experimenting in the kitchen, trying out new recipes and learning how to cook meals that nourish my body rather than just fill it. Over time, I developed a deep interest in nutrition, and eventually, a few years later, I earned several certificates in nutrition coaching and counseling. What started as a necessity became a passion. I found joy in fueling my body with the right foods and understanding how nutrition played a key role in my overall recovery.
But taking care of my body and mind was only part of the equation. I also had to learn how to take care of my surroundings and how to create a living space that reflected the new life I was trying to build. Much like my body, my home had fallen into a state of disrepair. It was dirty, cluttered, and frankly, depressing. I had let it get to the point where I didn’t even want to be there, where every corner reminded me how far I had fallen. But I knew that if I was going to truly recover, I needed to clean up not just my body and mind but my environment as well.
I started by developing a cleaning schedule, something simple but consistent. At first, it felt overwhelming—there was so much to do, so many things that needed attention. But I took it one step at a time, focusing on small areas, one day at a time. I learned the importance of sticking to a routine and ensuring I didn’t let things slide back into chaos. Slowly but surely, my home began to reflect the progress I was making in my life. It became a place where I could feel comfortable, relax, recharge, and feel at home again.
Looking back, it’s almost surreal to think about how far I’ve come. From a man who couldn’t walk down the street without losing his breath, who didn’t shower regularly, who ate whatever was easiest and least healthy, to someone who is now 173 pounds, training for a half marathon, eating a balanced, nutritious diet, and maintaining a clean and orderly home. The transformation wasn’t easy, and it didn’t happen overnight. It took time, effort, and a lot of hard work. But the result is a life I’m proud of, which I never thought I’d have again.
Learning to be human again was about more than just losing weight or getting clean. It was about reclaiming the parts of myself that addiction had stolen, about rebuilding my life from the ground up. It was about learning to care for myself in a way that I hadn’t in years, to take pride in the small, everyday tasks that make up a life. And in doing so, I found a sense of purpose and fulfillment that I never thought I’d feel again.
Today, as I continue to train for that half marathon, eat healthy, and maintain my home, I’m reminded of how far I’ve come. I’m reminded that recovery is possible and there’s always a way back, no matter how deep you’ve sunk. It’s not easy and requires a commitment to change, growth, and learning how to live again. But it’s worth it every single step of the way.
I’ve learned that being human means more than just existing—it means thriving. It means caring for your body, mind, and surroundings. It means finding joy in the everyday tasks that make up a life, in the routines that bring order and peace. It means embracing the recovery process of becoming the person you were always meant to be. And for that, I am forever grateful.
Stay disciplined. Stay resilient.
Jim Lunsford
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