You’ve heard it before, maybe a million times: “Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” It’s a phrase that gets tossed around in self-help books, Instagram captions, or when someone’s trying to sound deep during a late-night conversation. But how often do we really feel it, let it sink in, and allow it to shape how we see the people around us?
Here’s the deal. Most of us are walking through life with our own personal sledgehammers swinging at us. You might not see them, hell, we might not even acknowledge they’re there, but those invisible weights, those private wars? They’re always there. And it’s not just the big stuff, either. It’s the small, mundane moments that chip away at us. The tiny decisions that stack on top of each other until you’re carrying more than you thought possible. All those things we pack deep down inside, hidden from the rest of the world.
Take a moment to think about it. Look around. What do you see? Your neighbor taking out the trash, the cashier who rang up your groceries, the random person standing next to you at the crosswalk. They’re all in it—fighting their battles, carrying their burdens, their struggles. Maybe it’s the parent trying to juggle three jobs and still make time for their kid’s soccer game. Maybe it’s the teen who has mastered the art of the fake smile but is slowly sinking into the quicksand of self-doubt and anxiety. Maybe it’s the corporate CEO who, from the outside, seems to have their life together but is suffocating from the pressure of keeping up the facade.
And yeah, it could be you, too. Because let’s face it: every single one of us is wearing some kind of mask. Some of us are better at hiding the cracks, while others might let a little more show. But at the core, we’re all keeping parts of ourselves under lock and key, trying to hold it together while the world keeps spinning around us at a breakneck pace.
But here’s the kicker: most of the time, no one notices. No one gives a second thought to what’s really going on underneath the surface. And it’s not because people are inherently selfish or cruel (okay, some might be). It’s because we’re all so wrapped up in our own chaos that we forget other people have their own versions of it, too. We don’t always stop to think about the person on the other side of the counter, the screen, or the streetlight. We’re too busy fighting our own invisible battles.
I get it. It’s not like you can spend every waking moment of your life analyzing other people’s potential struggles. You can’t constantly be tuned into the possibility that the person who just cut you off in traffic might be racing to get to a hospital or that the barista who got your order wrong might be holding back tears because they just got a breakup text before their shift. We’re human. We react, sometimes impulsively, without thinking twice.
But maybe, just maybe, we can be a little more conscious of it. Not in a preachy, “let’s all hold hands and sing kumbaya” kind of way. I’m not about that. But in a real, raw, and grounded way. Acknowledge that every interaction you have, no matter how brief or insignificant it might seem, is with someone who’s carrying something you can’t see. Something you don’t know about. And that includes you. We’re all walking through this minefield called life, trying to avoid setting off the next explosion while nursing wounds from the last one.
I know what you might be thinking right about now. “Great, Jim, another ‘let’s all be more empathetic’ spiel. Heard it, don’t need it.” And yeah, I get that too. It’s easy to become desensitized, especially when you’ve been burned before. Maybe you’ve tried giving people the benefit of the doubt, but it backfired, leaving you jaded and skeptical. But that’s the thing about battles, isn’t it? They don’t stop. We keep fighting them whether we want to or not, whether we believe in the good of people or not.
It’s not about blind optimism or pretending like everyone’s a saint. I’m not saying to excuse every rude, careless, or harmful thing someone else does. I’m just saying to pause for a second before you jump to conclusions. Give that person a fraction of the grace you wish you’d receive when you’re in the trenches. It’s about recognizing that the world isn’t as black-and-white as we’d like to think it is. Most of the time, it’s shades of gray. Life gets messy. People get messy.
And sometimes, the battle someone’s fighting is so deeply embedded, so intrinsic to who they are, that they’ve almost forgotten they’re fighting it. It’s like breathing—automatic, unnoticed, and constant. Trauma does that. Addiction does that. Anxiety and depression do that. They take root so deeply that you forget what life was like before they set in before the daily fight became your normal. I know what that feels like. Trust me.
But there’s beauty in that fight, too. There’s strength in it. And the fact that we’re all still here, still pushing forward despite the invisible bruises and scars? That’s resilience. Every single one of us is resilient in our own way, even if we don’t always feel it, even if no one else sees it.
So, what’s the point of all this? Why does it matter that everyone’s fighting a battle we know nothing about? Because once you truly let that idea sink in, it changes how you move through the world. It doesn’t mean you stop getting frustrated, angry, or annoyed. It doesn’t mean you become some enlightened, unshakable force of compassion. But it does mean you start seeing people—not just as obstacles in your day or characters in your story—but as real, breathing human beings with their own struggles, stories, and silent battles.
Maybe, just maybe, it means you smile at that stranger who looks like they’ve had a rough day. Maybe you let that car merge in front of you even though you’re in a hurry. Maybe you don’t snap at the person who’s a little short with you because you know they’re probably dealing with something you can’t even begin to imagine. And maybe, on the flip side, you give yourself a little more grace, too. Because your battle, your fight? It’s valid, even if no one else sees it.
At the end of the day, we’re all just trying to get through this thing called life. Some days are harder than others, and some battles seem never-ending. But if we can remember that we’re all in the thick of it, fighting, struggling, and pushing through in our own way, the world may get just a little bit softer—a little more human—a little more bearable.
So, yeah. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about, including you. Don’t forget that.
Stay disciplined. Stay resilient.
Jim Lunsford
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