The only way out is through. Think about that for a second. It’s not a pep talk; it’s a blunt, raw truth that most people try to dodge like it’s an option. But here’s the thing: dodging doesn’t get you anywhere. You can try to step around pain, hardship, or whatever challenge you’re facing, but all you’re really doing is prolonging the inevitable. You’re still there, stuck with whatever it is, the weight you can’t shake off. So, let’s cut the fluff and get down to what it really means to go through.
Going through something is not for the faint-hearted. It’s messy and uncomfortable, and if you’re doing it right, it’ll scrape you down to the bone. It’s not the quick fix everyone wants, and it’s definitely not the comfortable route. Going through isn’t pretty, and it isn’t easy. It means facing your demons, standing eye to eye with everything that scares the hell out of you. It means stripping down to your rawest form and going toe-to-toe with the parts of yourself or your life that you’d rather ignore. There’s no room for lies or shortcuts when you go through something. It’s all or nothing.
Now, if that sounds intense, good because it is, and if you’re reading this and still with me, maybe you’re ready to hear what it really takes to get through. The truth is, you’ve got to be willing to get real with yourself. That’s step one. Stop lying to yourself about the situation. Don’t sugarcoat it, don’t downplay it, and for the love of everything, don’t go looking for someone to blame. Own your reality. If it’s painful, sit in that pain. If it’s something you messed up, take responsibility. Most people screw themselves over right here because they refuse to take accountability. They’d rather point fingers or play the victim, anything to avoid the hard truth. But that’s a dead-end road. You’re either in the driver’s seat or you’re not. And if you want to get through, you’ve got to be the one driving.
Going through means you don’t get to avoid the pain. You’ve got to feel it, understand it, and use it. Pain is not the enemy; it’s a signal. It’s telling you exactly where you need to go. The problem is that we’ve been taught that pain is something to avoid at all costs. People numb it with distractions, addictions, and excuses. They put a bandage on it and hope it’ll go away on its own. Newsflash: it won’t. Pain doesn’t just disappear. If you ignore it, it buries itself deep inside you, festering, growing, and turning into something even harder to face. Pain is like a compass if you’re willing to follow it. It’ll point you straight toward what you need to confront to grow. But you’ve got to be willing to go there, to let it hurt and push you and shape you.
This journey through whatever it is—addiction, trauma, heartbreak, failure—isn’t just about survival. Surviving isn’t enough. It’s about transforming, rebuilding, and becoming someone who isn’t just carrying the scars but who is stronger because of them. Let me tell you something: scars aren’t weaknesses. They’re proof. Proof that you went through hell and made it out the other side. Too many people look at their scars and feel shame or regret like they’re reminders of failure. But that’s the wrong way to look at it. Scars are reminders of strength and resilience. They’re proof that you’ve been tested and came out alive. So wear them like a damn badge of honor because that’s exactly what they are.
Now, when I say go through, I’m not talking about one big push and it’s done. This isn’t a movie where you face one challenge, overcome it, and live happily ever after. Real life doesn’t work like that. Going through is a process, often a long one. It’s waking up every day and choosing to face the pain, the challenge, the hard truth over and over again. It’s consistency. Discipline. Showing up for yourself, even when it feels like you’re making no progress at all. Because here’s the truth: change is usually invisible at first. It’s in the small moments, the daily choices that no one sees. It’s not glamorous, and most of the time, no one’s going to pat you on the back for it. You have to be your own cheerleader, your own motivator. You’ve got to find that fire within yourself to keep going when everything else tells you to quit.
But here’s the reward—the kind of strength that comes from going through something is unbreakable. It’s earned in a way that nothing else can touch. When you know you’ve been through hell and made it out; nothing can shake you in the same way again. You develop a kind of resilience that’s beyond words, beyond platitudes. It’s real, unshakable, and it’s yours. And that’s something no one can ever take from you. It’s not something you can buy or fake. It’s earned, and it’s worth every ounce of pain you had to endure to get there.
People are always looking for motivation, something external to keep them going. But true motivation, the kind that lasts, has to come from within. When you’re going through hell, there’s no magic quote, no pep talk that’s going to make it easier. The only thing that will get you through is that fire within yourself, that decision you make in the darkest moments to keep pushing forward. Discipline. It’s choosing to do the hard thing because you know it’s the right thing. It’s about showing up on the days when you don’t feel like it when every part of you is screaming to quit. That’s where real growth happens. That’s where you find out what you’re made of.
So if you’re reading this and you’re in the middle of something—maybe it’s the hardest thing you’ve ever faced—remember this: you are stronger than you think. You are more resilient than you know. The way out is not around, under, or over. It’s through. And yes, it’s going to hurt. It’s going to test every part of you. But that’s the price you pay for strength, growth, and becoming who you’re meant to be. You don’t get to sidestep the hard stuff if you want to come out stronger. And believe me, you want that strength. Because life isn’t going to stop throwing punches, there will always be another storm, another challenge, another battle waiting. The question is, will you be ready for it?
The only way out is through. Let that sink in. And don’t just let it be some inspiring phrase you read once. Make it a mantra, a call to action. When things get tough, remember it. When you feel like giving up, remember it. Use it. Let it remind you of what you’re capable of. Because if you can get through this—whatever your “this” is—there’s nothing in this world that can stop you. And one day, you’ll look back and see that every step, every struggle, every ounce of pain was worth it. Because it made you who you are. Strong. Unbreakable. Ready for whatever comes next.
So, go through it, face it, and own it. The only way out is through; you’ve got everything you need to make it.
Stay disciplined. Stay resilient.
Jim Lunsford
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