Ownership starts with facing hard truths—if you’re ready to stop making excuses and take control of your life, this is where real transformation begins.
I’ve practiced ownership long before I had the word to describe it and long before I understood the weight of what that responsibility could do. And trust me—when I first stared it down, it felt like a weight that could crush me. But instead of folding, I lifted it. I let it break me just enough to rebuild stronger. The day I chose sobriety, I stood in front of the mirror, empty and broken, and admitted something no addict wants to say: This mess is mine. Every broken promise, every lost relationship, every screw-up—it’s all mine.
That moment didn’t make me a hero. It didn’t magically fix the damage. But it was the spark that lit the fire, and that fire hasn’t burned out since. The truth is raw, brutal, and unforgiving, but owning it will set you free in a way nothing else can. I didn’t just stop drinking that day—I stopped running. From myself, from my past, from every excuse I had clung to like a crutch. I put the crutch down and walked on broken legs until I learned to run.
Let me tell you something real: Ownership isn’t a suggestion—it’s a requirement. It’s the backbone of everything that keeps me alive, driven, and relentless. I’ve built my life around PRIDE—Purpose, Resilience, Integrity, Discipline, and Empowerment. But looking back, I can see that PRIDE is a house of cards waiting to collapse without ownership. Let’s break it down.
You can’t have Purpose without owning your why. If you don’t know what you’re fighting for, or worse—if you’re lying to yourself about it—you’ll fold when the pressure hits. Purpose is more than a lofty goal. It’s waking up at 5 AM to run when your body begs for sleep. It’s eating clean when the junk food calls your name. It’s putting in reps when no one is watching. Purpose is built on choices, and choices require ownership.
Resilience isn’t about avoiding failure—it’s about owning and using every failure to climb out of the hole. Look, I’ve hit rock bottom. I’ve laid on the cold floor of regret with no one to blame but myself. But resilience doesn’t show up with a pat on the back. It shows up when you wipe the blood off, crack your knuckles, and say, ‘Let’s go again.’ You don’t get that kind of strength without owning your pain and understanding that every setback is just fuel.
Integrity doesn’t exist if you’re dodging accountability. You can’t preach honesty and loyalty while you hide behind lies. Owning your choices means looking at your mistakes—those nasty, embarrassing ones that make you cringe—and saying, “Yep, I did that.” Integrity is when you stop burying the truth and start living by it. When you own your mistakes, no one can use them against you. They lose their power because you’ve already faced them head-on.
Discipline is ownership’s best friend. They’re inseparable. Discipline isn’t motivation—it’s what kicks in when motivation dies. And guess what? Motivation dies often. Ownership keeps you in the gym when you’re sore, writing when you’re uninspired, and sober when the craving is screaming at you. Ownership means accepting that progress isn’t always sexy or exciting. It’s often boring, brutal, and repetitive, but that’s where real growth lives. Discipline is the grind you can’t escape; ownership is why you keep showing up.
Then there’s empowerment. You can’t lift others until you’ve lifted yourself. Period. You can’t inspire someone to take charge of their life if you’re still making excuses for yours. Empowerment isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being real. I’ve made a career of helping others face their demons because I know what it’s like to face mine. But the only reason I’m qualified to help is because I’ve owned my story, the ugly parts included. I’m not hiding them, and I’m not ashamed. I own them, and that’s where my power comes from.
And that’s the heart of it. Ownership isn’t just about admitting your faults—it’s about taking control. People think owning their mistakes will crush them. The truth is, not owning them will. Excuses are like chains. They wrap around you slowly, quietly, until one day you wake up stuck in a life you didn’t want, with regrets you can’t shake. But when you own your life, those chains fall off. You realize that every mistake, every setback, every scar is just another lesson, another brick in the foundation of who you’re becoming.
Here’s the kicker: No one’s coming to save you. Read that again. Let it sink in. No one owes you anything, and the world isn’t going to hand you a lifeline because you feel bad about your situation. You are your lifeline. If you want better, you have to be better. Blame won’t fix your marriage, your health, your finances, or your mental state. Blame is easy. Ownership is hard. And that’s exactly why most people avoid it. But if you’re reading this, I’m betting you’re not most people. You’ve got something in you that refuses to settle for average.
When I talk about adding ownership to the PRIDE framework, I’m not just throwing another buzzword at you. I’m giving you the missing piece. The glue that holds everything together. Ownership is the reason I’m standing here, alive and sober, instead of six feet under or stuck in a cycle of destruction. It’s the reason my marriage survived. It’s the reason I can look my kids and grandkids in the eye and say, “I’m here. I’m present. And I’m doing the work.”
Here’s how you start owning your life: Stop lying to yourself. Be brutally honest about where you are and how you got there. If you’re out of shape, own it. If you’re in debt, own it. If you’re stuck in a job you hate, own it. But don’t stop there. Ownership isn’t about sitting in your mess—it’s about cleaning it up. Take one step, then another, and keep going.
You’re going to screw up along the way. Good. That’s where the lessons are. But don’t you dare quit because the only thing worse than falling down is staying down. Every time you own your mistakes, you’re giving yourself the chance to fix them. Every time you own your choices, you’re taking control of your future. And every time you own your life, you’re building something unbreakable.
Ownership isn’t optional. Not if you want to live with Purpose, Resilience, Integrity, Discipline, and Empowerment. Not if you want to be the person who can face any challenge and come out stronger. Wear your past like armor, not a wound. Own it. The good, the bad, and the ugly—it’s all part of your story. Use it. Mold it. And never forget that the person in the mirror is the only one who can change your life.
Are you ready to own it? Good. Let’s get to work.
Stay disciplined. Stay resilient.
Jim Lunsford
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